WHAT IS POSITIVE DISCIPLINE?
Positive Discipline is a bundle of ideas that help you raise your kids to become responsible, respectful, and resourceful members of their community. Our programs give you ideas, but you pick and choose what will work for your family. Our programs don’t shame, judge, or center out anyone…we have all made mistakes, and that is why we are here…because we know we want more peace in our life and less chaos. All of this IS POSSIBLE!
WHAT IS THE PARENT GUIDE ACADEMY?
At the Parent Guide Academy, we use mindset along with Positive Discipline ideas, to create a more peaceful life, and a confident parent!
Positive Life – Positive Discipline – Positive Results.
Our materials take you on a path from Doubt to Peace, in your home, at school, and in the community. We talk about age relevant ideas and we embrace our journey and applaud our wins, no matter how big or small.
Think of the Parent Guide Academy, using Positive Discipline, like a pathway to peace. Each idea is a new step along the path. Your path could look totally different than someone else’s, but you have created the path that works for you and your family – we call this THE CONFIDENT PARENT SUCCESS PATH.
THE 5 CRITERIA OF POSITIVE DISCIPLINE
- Is Kind and Firm at the same time. (Respectful and encouraging)
- Helps children feel a sense of Belonging and Significance. (Connection)
- Is Effective Long-Term. (Punishment works short term, but has negative long-term results.)
- Teaches valuable Social and Life Skills for good character. (Respect, concern for others, problem-solving, accountability, contribution, cooperation)
- Invites children to discover how Capable they are and to use their personal power in constructive ways.
The Positive Discipline Parent Education and Classroom Management models are aimed at developing mutually respectful relationships. Positive Discipline teaches adults to employ kindness and firmness at the same time, and is neither punitive nor permissive.
AN INTRODUCTION TO POSITIVE DISCIPLINE
Click here for FREE access to “7 Days to Peace”, where you will learn a few Positive Discipline ideas that address the following:
- Lack of Communication at home
- Arguments over Routines and Chores
- Sibling Rivalry
- How to Stop Yelling
- Limiting Screen Time
A HISTORY OF POSITIVE DISCIPLINE
The Positive Discipline Parenting and Classroom Management Model is based on the work of Alfred Adler and Rudolf Dreikurs.* Dr. Adler first introduced the idea of parenting education to United States audiences in the 1920s. He advocated treating children respectfully, but also argued that spoiling and pampering children was not encouraging to them and resulted in social and behavioral problems. The classroom techniques, which were initially introduced in Vienna in the early 1920s, were brought to the United States by Dr. Dreikurs in the late 1930s. Dreikurs and Adler refer to the kind and firm approach to teaching and parenting as democratic.
In the 1980s, Lynn Lott and Jane Nelsen attended a workshop facilitated by John Taylor.* Lynn began training interns to teach experientially and wrote (with the help of her interns) the first Teaching Parenting Manual. Jane was the director of Project ACCEPT (Adlerian Counseling Concepts for Encouraging Parents and Teachers), a federally funded project that had received exemplary status while in its developmental phase. Jane wrote and self-published Positive Discipline in 1981. It was published by Ballantine in 1987. In 1988, Jane and Lynn decided to collaborate on the book which is now titled, Positive Discipline for Teenagers, and began to teach parenting and classroom management skills experientially. Lynn and Jane also wrote Positive Discipline in the Classroom and developed a manual filled with experiential activities for teachers and their students.
In the years since, Positive Discipline series has grown to include titles that address different age groups, family settings, and special situations. Positive Discipline is taught to schools, parents, and parent educators by trained Certified Positive Discipline Associates. Community members, parents, and teachers are encouraged to become trained facilitators and to share the concepts of Positive Discipline with their own groups.
Positive Discipline parent education classes are taught across the country, and Positive Discipline is successfully used as the classroom management model in private, religious, and public elementary schools.
*Alfred Adler (1870 – 1937) was a Viennese psychiatrist who immigrated to the United States. Though a contemporary of Freud, he promoted a substantially different view of human behavior. Adler believed that behavior is not driven by events in the past, but moves toward a goal of belonging and significance that is influenced by each individuals decisions about themselves, others, and the world. Rudolf Dreikurs (1897 – 1972), also a Viennese psychiatrist, was the director of one of the child guidance centers in Vienna that used Adlers methods with families and classrooms. He immigrated to the United States to avoid Nazi persecution in 1937, earlier in his career than Adler. Dreikurs was one of the first people to recognize the benefits of groups in therapy. He was a tireless advocate for relationships based on mutual respect, both at home and at school. His well known books include Children the Challenge, Maintaining Sanity in the Classroom, The Psychology of the Classroom.
*John Taylor lives and works in Oregon. He is author of Person to Person: Awareness Techniques for Counselors, Group Leaders, and Parent Educators. (1984) R & E Publishers, Saratoga, CA.